to date..or not to date?

you might think this is quite random for me to be putting up a post with this title after not posting anything since..easter and this is pretty much my first long, actual post. wel, the reason is that recently i have been faced with the question..to date or not to date? now i have grown up in a home where, dating is totally fine..when your'e sixteen. no biggie right? thats like everyones family rule especially homes with girls haha =P well i dont know why i have formed the opinion i have, the view of not to date..ill explain more of my views in a bit. it might be because, after watching 4 other siblings grow up and rush to date like it was the first time they'd seen a candy store in their life as a kid, and seeing the outcome. dissapointment, i mean not like serious heartbreak or anything just..utter dissapointment. i would hear my beautiful sister talk about her ex-boyfriends in high school and hear how dissapointed she was with them and the ways that they were so nice to her and did so many great things and then all the sudden went from night to day and were no longer the prince charmings everyone thought they were. i thought to myself oh that is so sad i hope that never happens poor little me. lol! my brother (robert lol) had a few girlfriends and it just wouldnt last, they always thought they were in love and it would last forever and then..it just fell apart and sometimes your heart would get broken and i saw how he would want another girlfriend to fulfill the last. my very best friend had her heart broken and it took quite sometime after sleepless nights and crying through her sleep to finally realize that only God can fill and overfill by thousands the space a boy once filled. now this is not to say that every high school relationship ends in sadness and anger, many people i know have married their high school sweethearts or just had a mutual decision that they werent meant to date and remained friends. i am not trying to sound like a stereo type or a date-basher. thats great for people who choose to date in high school and it either works out for or it doesnt and they have life lessons from their experiences. thats what God wanted for them. but for some reason God has planted in my heart a passive decision and opinion not to date. i havent had to practice or stick up for my opinion until recently, although i cannot date for another year because of age i have also refused now and in a year and until i am out of high school. i have recently been...shall we say 'lightly pressured' to date. not just by one individual in particular but others around me have asked why not date? its just for fun, youre in high school have some fun with it. thats great for the people who do decide to take that road, thats obviously the opinion that they have decided on and i will not pressure against them to change it. but i believe that God is testing me to see if i will stick to my opinions or if i will easily and quickly be swayed as soon as someone questions my views. i dont think that there is anything wrong with dating whatsoever, but i do believe that it has different outcomes. most high school relationships do not last..honestly and really most of them just dont last and end up being bitter towards the other person or wishing you had never done the things you did. i give props to the people whose high school dating either lasted or the ones who have been able to get past it all and become friends in the end. yay for you!!!! i also think that a lot of dating today is focused on saying 'i have a boyfriend' or 'i have a girlfriend' or 'i kissed him or i kissed her' or 'we hold hands' and things like that, its all about the fun and im all for fun!!!!! its the greatest thing ever!! right? but misproportioned fun in dating just ends up once again, in dissapointment. =( now thats no fun! it seems like some people just feel like they want to be fulfilled, i mean who doesnt? i know i do and you do and everyone does. boys want to know that they are strong and they are fulfilled by a girl friend and girls want to know and feel that they are beautiful, they want to be told that they are pretty and attractive and look to boys for that. im not sayin ive never done this, i have and often find myself thinking that a boy will give me my worth of beauty. but God has shown me that no matter how sweet one is to you, no one...nooo oonnee can completely fill your worth but God. the creator of the universe, the one who made you. He and only He can fill your longing in your heart to be told you are string or you are beautiful. He is in love with you and adores you. if you ask Him He will come to your heart and give you a feeling of worth and importance that you never dreamed of! this man that created the stars and made day and night and water and land and birds and bears and flowers and trees and rain ...wants you to ask Him to fulfill you..He has a place in His heart that only you can fill and you have a place in yours that only He can fill..and let me tell you He wants to fill it!!!!!!!! i have chosen to find contentment in God for my high school years. i will continue to find it in Him when i date later on and when im married and have found the Him He has chosen for me =D because after you become rejected by the opposie sex to completely fill your worth God is always there waiting to make you 100% happy!! now those of you who want to date: im not telling you its wrong this is just my personal and current view =) and i would think it was silly to suddenly change it the first time i got questioned because i believe God wants me to try this and stick with it for now =) so if this was too much for some of you sorry!! and maybe this will be God asking some of you to think about it cause he wants you to take this challenge too!! and no i have not chosen this view after reading 'i kissed dating goodbye' because i have never read that book!! haha so, thanks for takin the time to read and if you have questions please ask me !! i want to hear em and i also want to hear your differing opinions and reasons! so..leave a comment and God Bless!!


i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phil. 4:13 in case you think you cant do it =D